In life,there is always a push in the emotions of opposite sexes to want to click. Like when a boy likes a girl or a girl likes a boy and they want to get serious with the whole emotional matter.N:B I do not consider gay relationships as normal hence,it is not under consideration.
It grows with age,and begins at the adolescence. Although there exist a small minority of people that have been able to manage the feelings in form of celibacy or other decision making processes. But why not hook up is the matter;when you know you want to?
I am above 18,that means I am legally a mature adult. I can vote in elections,take alcohol,be held responsible for my actions etc hence,why not now?why can’t I get a girl friend to love and hold?why should I not fill the void in my heart that cries for the name of a sister? Why not fall into a sleep so that a rib is taken to form my eve?Why not now?
You know I continue to ask myself these questions. I am in the university,my mates turn to moving sculptures at night,others get warmth in the cold of the night,few religious ones tell me “I can kiss now,shebi its only sex that is wrong” etc…the pressure mounts,but deep down within me,my heart cries out “You are not ready bro!”.
Why not now?It is not now because even though I am almost through with school,I believe emotional attachments come with responsibilities that I am not ready for. It is difficult to enter into a relationship at this time of my life and not want to touch (Tongues,Fire,Gods word etc don’t cover natural feelings and crave,they only teach you how to live above them). Sometimes even the sounding of the instructions of the bible into our ears are not strong enough to cancel the cravings as we really really want to respond to the wants of our bodies….even the most spiritual can fall if not careful. Am I ready to handle such?Wont I fall into temptations if I allow the openings?
Why not now?I am not scared of my heart being broken but scared of scars in my relationship with my father in heaven. Hence,I choose to pause,until my spirit and heart shouts ready!Are their temptations?yes there have been. Have I fallen at some points?Obviously.But to prevent further matters arising,I choose to wait.
I am young and still has enough time.My mates miga
ht be having fun but I too will continue my fun void of vices.I actually know it is not easy to stay away from sexual immorality at this present age,but hanging unto God has been and forever remains the only source of strength.
To those that are struggling(Sincerly),I pray for strength for you to surmount in Jesus name.
It is not “now” because I need to understand myself to an extent before I add another person.It is not “now” because I respect and value ladies,and dont want to have long lists of “BrokenHearts” . It is not now because self development is key to proper development,bonding and pairing.
A tribute to all young boys who have made up their mind to stand firm,be good and be excellent Husbands. Keep the fire burning